How to Talk to Customers: 51 Conversation Starters + Tips for Strippers

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Welcome to How to Talk to Customers… FOR STRIPPERS (obvi). 

This post is gonna go over how to talk to strip club customers in a way that leads to more money in your pocket. 

I’ll be writing this post using my own knowledge, tips and tricks from other strippers, and also using some non-specific conversation tips from other industries that I think need to be used by dancers in our industry! 

I’ve said time and time again that the most successful strippers aren’t just the most ~attractive~ strippers in the club- it’s the ones who not only rely on their looks, but also on their hustle. 

Being able to hold a conversation goes a looooooooong way ($$$) in the club. 

Conversation Starters + The Initial Approach

That’s the topic of this post. 

This post is basically a list of what to first say to initiate a conversation with a potential customer and tips and tricks to make the conversation easier to keep going. 

This post is broken up into a few parts that are based on some environmental factors:

• General tips 

• Body language

• The first words that should come out of your mouth

• Day shift specific conversation starters

• Night shift specific conversation starters

• After hours specific conversation starters

• Approaching groups 

• Conversation no-nos

Disclaimer: any of these tips can be used in any situation if you play it right!! 

So, let’s get to it so you can make this moneyyyyyy!

Related post: Preparing to be a Stripper + Everything You Need to Know

General Tidbits

1. Conversation skills are necessary

2. Quiet =/= disinterested. A quiet customer DOES NOT always mean they aren’t interested in you! Some guys are shy, new to the whole thing, broody/hard to get, etc. 

3. Never start with “do you want a dance?” 

4. Don’t talk dirty if it’s not YOU 

5. The key is to get them talking about themselves

6. Stick with open ended questions.Aka not questions that require a strictly yes/no answer. Your questions should lead to more information which leads to new directions to take the conversation!

7. Don’t completely hide your intelligence. The “bimbo stripper” act is so 1990s. 

8. Keep track of your lies 

9. Don’t spend too much time with one customer without any form of compensation

10. Being on autopilot is your worst enemy 

11. Smile for god’s sake 

12. Try to remember who you’re talking to. It’s never good if you’re talking to someone you’ve already talked to before and they realize you don’t remember them.

13. Don’t fear rejection 

Body Language

Your body talks. 

14. Do your best to keep your body in full view, regardless of where you’re sitting in relation to the customer 

15. Too early physical contact can lead to unclear boundaries about what is acceptable without payment.

16. If you approach a customer at a table:

• Stay in full view
• Lean in to them

17. If you approach a customer in a section/on a couch:

• Sit on your knees or cross your legs
  • Keep it sexy and playful!

• Lean against the railing
  • This is my personal fave cause it can actually be kind of intimate to be leaning against the railing/borders of a section with a customer.  

• Sit next to the customer on the top of the couches
  • You’ll look like you belong

18. If you approach a customer at the bar:

• Lean against the bar, but you keep your body language open to the customer

Those First Words…

The first couple things you say to a customer are v important. If you approach a customer with respect things will tend to go in your favor! 

Hoe tip: always, always, always greet the customer and introduce yourself!! Even if it’s not the first thing you say to someone, it should be somewhere in the beginning of the conversation. 

19. “Hi, I’m…” 

20. “Hi, how are you?” 

21. “Hi, you look like you need some company” 

22. “You look lonely/bored”

23. “Whatcha drinking?”  

24. “Where are you from”

25. Compliment something about the customer

26. “Do you mind if I sit with you?” 

Day Shift

In my experience, conversational skills are most used during the day shift. Customers generally aren’t in a party hard type of mood and are more interested in you. 

27. “Are you here on your lunch break? 

28. “Are you sneaking away from the office/playing hooky?”  

29. If they’re eating the buffet (🤢) ask: “How’s the food?”

30. “What do you do for fun?” 

31. “Have you been here before?” 

32. “What do you do?” 

33. Talk about what’s on the TV 

My overall day shift vibe: witty, friendly

Night Shift

34. “What’s the occasion?”

35. “What brings you here?” aka a nice way to ask why the fuck are you here.

36. “Have you been here before?” (A true classic) 

37. “How was your day?”

38. “Ready to unwind?”

39. Compliment the girl on stage 

My night shift vibes: flirty/dirty, good time with personal attention

After Hours

40. “Where were you before finding your way here?” Most people end up at the booty club once the local bars and clubs close

41. “What’s the occasion?”

42. “How’s your night going so far?”

My after-hour vibes: party girl, let’s keep it going to the AM 

If you need more tips on working at an after hours/urban strip club, I got you. 

Approaching Groups

43. “Heyyyyy guys!” (A classic)

44. Acknowledge everyone first, before focusing on a specific person in the group. People are sensitive and might fuck with your money if they feel that you were rude/left them out

45. Latch on to one person in the group (after you greet everybody)

46. “Who’s the guest of honor?”

47. “You guys look like you are up to no good!”

Sticky Subjects

As a general rule, avoid these subjects:

48. Religion

49. Politics (unless he brings it up first)

50. Family

51. Your shift details (such as how much money you’ve already made, how shitty it is, when you usually work, etc.)

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