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Welcome to my new series: How to Talk to Customers… FOR STRIPPERS (obvi).
This will be a short series (aka multiple different posts) that’s gonna go over how to talk to strip club customers in a way that leads to more money in your pocket.
I’ll be writing this post using my own knowledge, tips
I’ve said time and time again that the most successful strippers aren’t just the most ~attractive~ strippers in the club- it’s the ones who not only rely on their looks, but also on their hustle.
Being able to hold a conversation goes a looooooooong way ($$$) in the club.
This series is going to be broken down like this:
- Conversation starters + the initial approach (THIS POST)
- How to hold a conversation
- Tips for closing the sale
- Talking to regulars
Conversation Starters + The Initial Approach
That’s the topic of this post.
This post is basically a list of what to first say to initiate a conversation with a potential customer and tips and tricks to make the conversation easier to keep going.
This post is broken up into a few parts that are based on some environmental factors:
- General tips
- Body language
- The first words that should come out of your mouth
- Day shift specific conversation starters
- Night shift specific conversation starters
- After hours specific conversation starters
- Approaching groups
- Conversation no-nos
Disclaimer: any of these tips can be used in any situation if you play it right!!
So, let’s get to it so you can make this
Related post: Preparing to be a Stripper + Everything You Need to Know
General Tidbits
- Conversation skills are necessary
2. Quiet =/= disinterested. A quiet customer DOES NOT always mean they aren’t interested in you! Some guys are shy, new to the whole thing, broody/hard to get, etc.
3. Never start with “do you want a dance?”
4. Don’t talk dirty if it’s not YOU
5. The key is to get them talking about themselves
6. Stick with
7. Don’t completely hide your intelligence. The “bimbo stripper” act is so 1990s.
8. Keep track of your lies
9. Don’t spend too much time with one customer without any form of compensation
10. Being on autopilot is your worst enemy
11. Smile for god’s sake
12. Try to remember who you’re talking to. It’s never good if you’re talking to someone you’ve already talked to before and they realize you don’t remember them.
13. Don’t fear rejection
Body Language
Your body talks.
14. Do your best to keep your body in full view, regardless of where you’re sitting in relation to the customer
15. Too early physical contact can lead to unclear boundaries about what is acceptable without payment.
16. If you approach a customer at a table:
- Stay in full view
- Lean in to them
17. If you approach a customer in a section/on a couch:
- Sit on your knees or cross your legs
- Keep it sexy and playful!
- Lean against the railing
- This is my personal fave cause it can actually be kind of intimate to be leaning against the railing/borders of a section with a customer.
- Sit next to the customer on the top of the couches
- You’ll look like you belong
18. If you approach a customer at the bar:
- Lean against the bar, but you keep your body language open to the customer
Those First Words…
The first
Hoe tip: always, always, always greet the customer and introduce yourself!! Even if it’s not the first thing you say to someone, it should be somewhere in the beginning of the conversation.
19. “Hi, I’m…”
20. “Hi, how are you?”
21. “Hi, you look like you need some company”
22. “You look lonely/bored”
23. “Whatcha drinking?”
24. “Where are you from”
25. Compliment something about the customer
26. “Do you mind if I sit with you?”
Day Shift
In my experience, conversational skills are
27. “Are you here on your lunch break?
28. “Are you sneaking away from the office/playing hooky?”
29. If they’re eating the buffet (🤢) ask: “How’s the food?”
30. “What do you do for fun?”
31. “Have you been here before?”
32. “What do you do?”
33. Talk about what’s on the TV
My overall day shift vibe: witty, friendly
Night Shift
34. “What’s the occasion?”
35. “What brings you here?” aka a nice way to ask why the fuck are you here.
36. “Have you been here before?” (A true classic)
37. “How was your day?”
38. “Ready to unwind?”
39. Compliment the girl on stage
My night shift vibes: flirty/dirty, good time with personal attention
After Hours
40. “Where were you before finding your way here?” Most people end up at the booty club once the local bars and clubs close
41. “What’s the occasion?”
42. “How’s your night going so far?”
My after-hour vibes: party girl, let’s keep it going to the AM
If you need more tips on working at anafter hours /urban strip club, I got you.
Approaching Groups
43. “Heyyyyy guys!” (A classic)
44. Acknowledge everyone first, before focusing on a specific person in the group. People are sensitive and might fuck with your money if they feel that you were rude/left them out
45. Latch on to one person in the group (after you greet everybody)
46. “Who’s the guest of honor?”
47. “You guys look like you are up to no good!”
Sticky Subjects
As a general rule, avoid these subjects:
48. Religion
49. Politics (unless he brings it up first)
50. Family
51. Your shift details (such as how much money you’ve already made, how shitty it is, when you usually work, etc.)
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can you make a post on awkward situations also a post on how much sex you have if you’re a stripper also if a customer wants to go on a date with you.
Taya,
I can definitely post about awkward situations in the near future! Regarding sex, stripping and full-service sex work (having sex for money) are two TOTALLY different things. As a stripper, I don’t have sex with anyone.
Hi, I’m going to an interview this Thursday for a waitress position. I’m attending pole dance classes next week and I’m excited. This is my first time. Do you have any suggestions in what I should wear for the interview? Love your blog btw! 🔥
Hi Rosalinda!! I would suggest wearing something classy, but that also shows off your body, especially if this is for a waitressing position at a strip club. Thanks for being a reader!
I love it. I’m currently a dancer and these are really great tips. I’ve never liked groups. But I know how to approach the group. Subscibed💋
I don’t know if I asked this but how do you know when your ready for nights ? I started dancing (done only a few day shifts due to full time job and school ) on day shift only . I work at an urban club and the day shift has its moments but it can be slow a lot . I want to try nights due to my schedule (and the Money) but idk if as a newbie Iam ready for that .
Taylor, there’s no perfect time to make the switch, just go for it! They’re really not that different!
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