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Literally, 99% of the messages and comments I get from you guys involve anxiety or nerves.
AND I TOTALLY GET IT.
To this day, I still suffer from anxiety before going to work. The anxiety and nerves that a lot of us feel before a shift is very unique. “Regular,” degular smegular jobs may cause nervousness, but the anxiety felt by a stripper is something totally different. Other employees in different fields don’t have to deal with:
Being naked (people literally have nightmares about going to work naked, and we do it WILLINGLY).
The inconsistent money
Starting the shift at a deficit
Dealing with strangers, creeps, and the law while knowing you have little to no protection
Etc.
Of course those things may make a lot of us feel anxious!!
From my very first shift, I have felt borderline intense anxiety about going to work. Once I got to work, it died down a little, and once I started making money, that anxiety would disappear!
There IS light at the end of the tunnel!!
I’m going to share with you my tried and true tips that I use to overcome anxiety before going to work!
Disclaimer: If for you, there is no light at the end of the tunnel, and you experience full on, intense anxiety all the time during your shift and even before and after, then you seriously need to sit down and think about if being a stripper is really for you. There’s no shame in not doing something because it’s detrimental to your mental and emotional health.
Have a Pre-Work Routine
Doing the same routine before every shift will provide a sense of comfort!
Get ready for work the exact same way, at the same time, every time you go in. I would suggest doing the majority of your routine in the comfort of your own home. I was never one of the girls to spend time getting ready in the locker room, because I felt more calm and secure doing it in my own bathroom.
Even on nights that I went promoting before work, I would get ready the exact same way.
Nothing fancy, just consistency.
I always showered before a shift to help me relax. I would do this self-care shower routine to try and get myself to a good baseline of relaxation. Then, I’d do my makeup, my hair, and then make sure that my work bag was packed and ready to go! All of this with some good music in the background and a blunt.
Which brings me to my next tip.
Take the Edge Off
Now, listen to me VERY closely.
You should NOT be dependent on having to do drugs or drink alcohol before or during a shift in order to get through it and make money. That is the number one red flag that stripping is NOT for you.
But, I do think that “taking the edge off” is helpful for a lot of strippers who suffer from nerves or anxiety. This may mean taking your prescribed medication, smoking weed, taking a shot, etc.
YOU KNOW YOU. If it ever gets to a point where you NEED any of those things (minus any medication that is prescribed to YOU) to be a functional stripper then you seriously need to reevaluate.
For me, smoking weed helps relieve my anxiety in almost every area of my life, so smoking before work was only natural for me and is part of MY process.
Drinking as a dancer at a strip club is pretty much unavoidable and I’m not going to lie, it DID help, but when it came to the alcohol I was cognizant of my dependence on it and made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t let it get out of hand. You should do the same!
In regards to anything and everything you may do to take the edge off… just don’t let it become a problem.
Listen to Calming Affirmations or Music On the Way to Work
I listen to positive and calming affirmations (find them on youtube) anytime I’m in the car!
Affirming that “I am…” secure and #blessed did wonders for ya girl’s mental mindset going into work. I would highly suggest looking into positive affirmations (like I said, just youtube “positive affirmations” and follow the instructions), it’s basically guided meditations that you can do anywhere (like when commuting to work).
The positivity, repetition, and calming nature of the videos really got me into the right headspace.
If affirmations aren’t your thing, then I think you’re favorite calming music can do the same thing!
The power of sound is immense and it’s definitely something I recommend taking advantage of.
Find Comfort in Other Dancers
Talk to other dancers in the locker room and out on the floor when it’s that limbo time between the start of your shift and the busy times.
Talking to people can take your mind off of your anxiety and nerves!
Complaining about something stripping, customer, or club related is the number 1 way to start a conversation with your fellow dancers.
My advice regarding your coworkers is to be friendly, but not too friendly (until you know someone is trustworthy). Other strippers are humans too! Having a work wife is a great way to establish something that is positive for you at work (besides $$$). Looking forward to seeing your work wife at work will help relieve some of that anxiety!
Side Note: Put on Your Big Girl Panties and Push Through for the Money
Now, like I said in the beginning if you’re having serious, debilitating anxiety at the thought of going to work, then find a new job!
But, something that helped with my mild anxiety and general nervousness was just being stern with myself.
I basically forced myself to get over myself and put my big girl panties on because this anxiety is not going to stop me from getting my money.
Some nights, it did. Some nights, I was able to push through and have really good, non-anxiety riddled nights!
For me, a major key was to just focus on making money.
Whenever it got to be too much, I took breaks from dancing (like a week off) and reevaluated if I wanted to keep dancing. I always made the decision to go back to work, because I knew myself and I knew what I wanted. You need to have these conversations with yourself, too!!
It’s okay not to go in some nights! Your mental health is a priority! You can’t make money if you’re not into it 🤷🏽♀️.
Every stripper deals with anxiety differently, but these are just some of my most helpful tips to deal with it. I hope they helped!!
I think pretty much everyone suffers from anxiety and nervousness at some point! Don’t feel like you’re alone and don’t be afraid to reach out for help! My inbox is always open!
What do YOU do to overcome anxiety before a shift?
You’re the shit, my girl.. Thank you for this. 💖🤧
Thank you!!! 💕💕
I seen the look on my friends faces whenever I talked about becoming a dancer. So I stopped talking about it with them. The stigma definitely comes with the job. My mom was a dancer when she had to raise two children own. I have my own reasons why I need/WANT to become a dancer. I am so happy that I found your website. Reading your posts from your perspective cleared any doubts I had about what I wanted for myself. Thank you <3
Hit me up ! I need a female friend to talk to about it too I start this month in a week or so 😭 Snapchat : barbiee.bitxhh
Luna,
I’m so glad you’re strong enough in yourself and your decisions to do what you WANT and to do what’s best for you! Your mom is amazing!! I’m so glad I could you help you! <3
Thank you for this. It definitely helps! I am going in tomorrow for the first time and totally feeling the nervousness of it all. But like you said, time to put my big girl panties on and get what I want. 🙌🏻
Go on and make that money, Kimmy!!
Wow thank you! So happy I found this I deal with all of the things you discuss. I’m really happy I found this website I just had a major panicky attack and I never do just usually nervous and last night just hit me hard and I just froze I been doing this for a long time and I appreciate your advice hope your can please email me! Help lol your have great insight of what it’s like and you feel totally alone even though it’s been a long time. Thank you
Blondie, check out my work with me/contact page to shoot me an email! We all experience burnout, consider taking a short break just to focus on you and self-care!
You are amazing thank you for sharing!!!
Thank you!! <3
Even now I want to cry just thinking about going in bc I’m so not confident in myself. However, I know I have the personality and looks. I can fake it like I’ve been doing my whole life. Thank you for this article.
Mia, I’m in the same boat!! It’s so hard sometimes, but we got this!!
Hi my name is Rozay and last night was my first time stripping I was so fucking nervous it’s like I couldn’t think of dance moves or anything but I still got on stage and made it work. I left right after though
Hello, I am about to start working as a stripper and I am extremely nervous about it. I am mostly worried that I am not going to do good and not be able to move my body in the correct way. I decided to be a stripper for the money and to become more confident in myself, less stiff, and more relaxed. I grew up in a Mormon household and wasn’t able to really express myself. I want to overcome this, I just am very anxious and stressed about my first shift. Any advice?
About to start dancing because I just got fired from my job for being stalked (sounds ridiculous because it is). I’m suing for being wrongfully terminated and putting on my big girl panties and making this money because I have mouths to feed. I feel like a different person reading this. I’m so refreshed. Thank you love and god bless you.
I literally am so happy I came across this site!!! I feel so much better about getting back into dancing now! I was kind of iffy about it but all your tips and suggestions have made me sure about auditioning this weekend. I literally love your site, playlists, and YouTube you crack me up girl. I feel this site on another level. We need you 🙂 keep doing what your doing. Much love from Rhode Island ❤️
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So I just literally googled how to prepare for becoming a stripper.
I am interested and always have, however, I’m unsure if I missed my opportunity as far as my age and just if I can do this.
The thing is I love to dance, I know how to dance and I have sex appeal, I love to get hella cute when I go out, All this with my clothes on. I’ve danced in bathing suits and even my bra and panties before I get ready to go out, just never bare. I’m reading your tips and I won’t front, I have anxiety just picturing myself lol.
Please help
hey! I’m here cause I’m thinking about being a stripper and just by reading everything you pretty much got me up to par but I would love to communicate with you and ask questions , feel free to contact me @(334)538-3260.
~ Thank you!
Thank you so much 😩💕
I called ask eked when they’ll be hiring more girls and what all I’ll need to bring in and if there’s an audition and the club responded that there was an audition for me but now I need time to prepare how to respond
I called ask eked when they’ll be hiring more girls and what all I’ll need to bring in and if there’s an audition and the club responded that there was an audition for me but now I need time to prepare how to respond
xoxo😇☁Hi babe I’m thinking about stripping and want to start dancing gracias the how -tips were helpful. Stripping is not for you when.🌈💛💙💜💚❤