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You can’t be a stripper forever. And that’s a fact.
I know most of us love stripping. The money is great and it’s fun, what more can you ask for?? But it’s finite. I’m not that bitch who’s going to lie to you. I don’t want anyone to be that woman who wakes up one day and is just like… fuck.
We all have three options when it comes to defining our future financial success:
- Save extremely hard for the future so that you can retire early
- Get another job once you hang up your pleasers
- Find a career
A career is different than any old job. A job is something you do to pass the time and make money to survive. A career should be a series of long-term employment opportunities that are both financially stable and personally fulfilling.
Me? I’m with finding a career.
But, pursuing a career is HARD. Pursuing a career as a stripper is even HARDER.
That’s why we’re going to navigate this TOGETHER.
This is going to be an on-going series on Half & Bad with more tips, guidance, and free downloadable content so make sure you subscribe!
School vs No School
The only formal education you NEED is a high school
A college degree (associates, bachelors, or beyond) is extremely helpful when it comes to pursuing a career, but it’s not everything.
Higher education is super fucking expensive and often inaccessible, which is why I won’t be spending too much time talking about education in this post.
Just know that it does help, but if a degree isn’t on you resume right now, it doesn’t mean that you can’t find the career of your dreams.
The hard truth: a degree will open many doors for you.
BUT, it won’t get you through the door. That’s all on you.
Think of it this way, to get a degree and a job after graduation you’re going to need to GRIND.
To get a career opportunity without a degree, you’re going to need to HUSTLE.
Fortunately, us strippers and hoes know a thing or two about hustling AND grinding.
Finding Your Lane
The best careers are fueled by passion and natural prowess.
Your career should be purposeful to you and enjoyable, while also something that you can do.
If you’re still reading at this point, it means that we’re all here to not just get a job, but to pursue a career that is intentional and fulfilling.
That’s why you need to find your passion.
Now a person can have many passions, obviously, but the key to a great career is finding a passion that is profitable.
Some questions to ask yourself:
What am I good at?
What do I love doing?
What do I need to realistically support myself and my responsibilities?
What will I honestly be okay doing for long periods of time?
Keep in mind that many careers involve growth, changes, and shifts. Nobody is asking you to be stagnant.
If you don’t have the answer to any or all of those answers, IT’S OKAY!!
To help you answer those questions and find a career venture that you’re excited about, there’s a ton of things you can do!
A lot of my favorite online publications have a series of interviews with interesting and different career women that I find super insightful and helpful!
My favorite is The Every Girl’s Career Profiles. They go into detail with badass women from many different industries on their careers and how they got to the place they’re at now!
My absolute fave was the profile they did on the Women of the FLOTUS Office (and by FLOTUS we mean Michelle Obama forever and always).
I know Cosmopolitan.com and Glamour.com do similar things as well!
Read articles, books, blog posts like this one, etc.
One of my favorite things to do is go to Barnes & Noble for an hour or two and just browse their business and personal growth section.
The employees at B&N don’t mind you taking time to sit and read any of the books, even if you have no intention of buying them! I do it alllll the time SHRUG.
Talk to others for inspiration, advice, and insight
If you’re truly stumped on what to do, consult friends, families, customers, etc. Basically just talk to anyone who knows you!
Often times, the people you surround yourself with notice and admire SOMETHING about you. They might point out certain skills that you have, such as you’re the best pole dancer in the club and taught all the newbies some pole tricks, or that you mention your puppy at least twice a shift.
Both of those things can be used to create a career!! Um, hello, stripper turned pole dance instructor turned owner of her own dance studio and helloooo, stripper who volunteers at an animal shelter who then becomes an employee, who then becomes a vet tech.
Look at your life
What is it filled with? What are your priorities?
I promise you there’s something there than can lead to something more!
If you need more advice on finding that passion, interest, skill, or hobby that you can turn into $$$ my DMs are always open!!
Lack of Experience
Regardless of education and previous jobs, a major barrier for a lot of dancers (and young people in general) is our lack of experience in the “real world work force.”
For dancers, it’s often VERY awkward trying to explain that gap on your resume. Depending on the opportunity you’re applying for, it’s most likely not smart to put your stripping/club experience on your resume.
People hate sex workers. Even our highest paying customers don’t respect us or our brains. That’s just the way it is and while many of us are actively advocating and working towards changing the perception of all types of sex workers, we need to be realistic and work with what we’ve got.
The cool thing about our profession is that our schedules are often flexible and a lot of us only work at night.
That means, unlike a lot of people working other types of jobs, we have the time and resources to gain experience (especially since our finances are already being taken care of).
INTERNSHIPS COUNT AS WORK EXPERIENCE!!!!!!!!
Internships aren’t JUST for students.
An internship is basically just working for a company or organization for a short period of time (usually between three months to a year), but instead of being employed by the company, your experience will be more geared towards exposing you to the field you’re in and learning about different jobs and aspects of that field. Most of the time they’re unpaid, which #sucks, but is often doable for students AND STRIPPERS!!
Intern during the day, dance at night.
Most internships are part time and flexible, meaning you can spread your hours however you’d like and could even pick up a few day shifts at the club, too.
Internships are a great, no commitment way to try new areas of interest and to see if what you’re passionate about is really for you.
For example, I interned at a felon re-entry program (we helped men (mostly of color) who had been incarcerated for over ten years transition back into society) and I learned that I was tiredttttt of working with men and tired of the TOUGH work that is anything related to criminal justice. That internship helped my refocus on what it was that really I wanted to do in life.
The great thing about internships are that, since they’re unpaid, most places that you’ll be applying at won’t require ANY experience, cause that’s the point of the internship!
Plus, I know many, many stories of people getting offered jobs at the end of their internship! It’s a great way to get your foot in the door (there’s that analogy again) and show an employer that you work hard af and that you’re smart af and that they should hire you!
Search for internships just like you would a job. If you have a specific company or organization in mind already, just call them off! Most places are willing to take on an intern even if they’re not advertising for one (because it’s free work lol).
Volunteering is like interning just without the commitment!
Animal shelters, schools, daycare centers, hospitals, non-profits, etc., etc., all take volunteers on a regular basis!!
Volunteering is much more flexible too, there’s zero time commitment and you can literally bounce around from place to place until you find something that you really like!
As strippers, our customers come from all walks of life.
We all know a doctor, a businessman, a lawyer, teacher, literally so many professionals walk through the door of a strip club.
Take advantage of this!!
Network and promote the shit out of yourself!!
Even if it’s just getting some resume tips, interview advice from a CEO, or a small odd job that could turn into a bigger career opportunity!
One of my best friends (who doesn’t have a college degree) did receptionist work for her lawyer sugar daddy and that turned into the biggest resume booster that got her a job at a non-profit that has since turned into a career she’s really passionate about!
Start preparing for you future NOW, set yourself up for success NOW, and I promise you it will all be worth it.
Not everyone wants a career, not everyone wants out of the club, some people are perfectly content doing what they can to just get by.
But, if you’re here, on H&B, we’re the ones trying to thrive, not just survive.