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I look like a strippa in my real clothes 🗣 * Gucci Mane voice *
No, really… I usually do. And it’s kinda what this post is about. I love dressing in ways that are considered “provocative” and get me called a hoe! I haven’t worn a bra in almost two years (my nips are my fave accessories), I love having my titties out, my ass is fucking FAT so it’s always showcased, and I appreciate the concept of showing a little lot of skin. I LOVE MY BODY AND I REFUSE TO HIDE IT!
I found empowerment through harnessing my sexuality and accenting my best physical, ahem, assets. I’m here to tell you that it is OKAY to want to look and feel sexy on an everyday basis!! It’s OKAY if you want to wear the cute clothes that you see on less endowed models, but feel would look too skanky/trashy/slutty/insert-other-misogynistic-terms-utilized-to-keep-women-oppressed-here on you because of your body!! There’s a lot of stigma around disassociating with modesty (especially as a woman) and I’m still working on overcoming this and wearing what I want CONFIDENTALLY.
This post is for the women who wear whatever their heart desires (or want to start) and it’s also for those who are curious about why I’m so comfortable doing so.
Why I Wear What I Wear
You know how some women find modesty to be empowering? Well, I don’t. I find the opposite to be true. What’s empowering is making the choice on what to wear yourself and having the confidence to wear what you want.
It also doesn’t hurt that I know that I look good!! It’s a preference, I understand that some people feel uncomfortable if certain parts of their body on display, but that’s not me (anymore)!!
My body is a piece of art that I refuse to hide.
I used to be so ashamed of having a body that forces anything even remotely cute to be “sexy” (being 5’0 with big titties and a fat ass will do that). It took me years to realize that my body making people uncomfortable is NOT my problem. I’m not here to steal yo man or give your child wet dreams, I just want to wear a cute body suit or shorts (like everyone else in Texas). Just because YOU find my body to be overtly sexy in certain clothes doesn’t mean that I’m going to go back to hiding it away under extra-large t-shirts and athletic shorts. My love for dressing provocatively is almost a forced love, at first I didn’t set out to be that sexy bitch, but I figured if the clothes that look “cute” on the thin models look “sexy” on me then why not embrace that?
In American society, breasts and butts are considered to be “secondary sex organs,” but in reality they are just body parts.
We’ve over sexualized the female body so much that many women actively work against it when getting dressed. When I turned eighteen, I said fuck that and fuck anyone who’s got a problem with it. I haven’t looked back since. It’s been a continuous journey of becoming comfortable with my body and learning to be unbothered with making other people uncomfortable.
IF A GROWN MOTHER OF 2 IS COMFROTABLE WITH HER BODY AND WANTS TO SHOW IT OFF THAT’S NONE OF UR BUSINESS OR ANYONE ELSE’S – Muva (Amber) Rose
Ignoring the Haters
A lot of people are uncomfortable with the female body, so a lot of people are uncomfortable with ME since I don’t fit into their mold of female modesty. I try not to let those people make me uncomfortable. The problem is not mine, it’s theirs. Whatever complex people have surrounding seeing a woman’s nipple or thigh or any other arbitrary body part does not concern me. It is not my responsibility to protect the feelings of strangers 🤷🏽♀️. It definitely says more about them than it does about me, which is why you’ve just got to ignore them (or fight them if you’ve got the time 😜. Some days are way harder than others, but I’m working towards being in a place where I don’t depend on the acceptance of society on any level.
A lot of people claim that I, and woman like me, lack dignity and self-respect. Speaking for myself (and maybe a few others), nothing could be farther from the truth. Self-esteem is something deeply personal to all of us and nobody has a say in what defines self-respect and dignity except for YOU. Dignity is sourced from authenticity and the quality of commitment to one’s self. My worth is not defined by what I wear or how I am perceived by others!! My self-esteem comes from ME and my energy.
The key is to decide if you want to continue letting other people police your body or if you want to take control of your own agency. It does take a certain level of fearlessness, but we are all equipped with the power to make our own decisions and to be our authentic selves.
It’s 2018. It’s time to take a good, hard look at yourself and honestly think about whether the decisions you make are YOURS or are they based off of societal conditioning. It’s impossible to do overnight, but it’s time to start unlearning misogyny. It is TIME, y’all. Liberate yourselves from society’s constraints and do whatever the fuck you want!! This is all easier said than done, I know, but why not start with how you outwardly express yourself?
So tell me, what are your thoughts on this? I know you have some 👀👀.