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The number one question I always see asked by aspiring strippers and baby strippers is basically “what do I need to do to prepare to be a stripper?” I had this question, and every question that falls under the umbrella of this question, before and during the early days of my dance career.
I remember the first time I ever danced at a strip club. I was NOT prepared. AT ALL. I wasn’t prepared mentally, physically, or emotionally. I left the club super early and cried myself to sleep LOL. I’ll tell y’all all about it one day.
I TRIED to do my research and there’s a lot of information out there on the internet, but none of it was really helpful to ME… which is exactly why I started this website in the first place. We need a resource where we can find information relevant to OUR realities. This is also why I’m super excited about this post, because it’ll hopefully help some of y’all in the way that I needed help.
As I mentioned, there’s a lot of preparation to do before you start stripping (especially if you’re a type A personality like myself). I’m gonna break down into four parts: physical preparation, mental preparation, emotional preparation, and finish off with how you need to prepare a business plan, dealing with the industry, and be fiscally smart.I’m gonna break down into four parts: physical preparation, mental preparation, emotional preparation, and finish off with how you need to prepare a business plan, dealing with the industry, and be fiscally smart. Click To Tweet
Disclaimer: Every piece of advice that I give is just that. MY ADVICE. I am no expert. It’s just me, my opinions, and my good intentions.
For additional tips: 3 Major Tips for Becoming a Better Stripper
Obviously, I don’t have to explain to you guys about the physical aspect of this job and why it’s important. It’s the nature of the sex work game, baby. There’s no getting around it.
What I will say is that there’s a place in the strip club for EVERY body type. Now, it is definitely harder to get hired at most certain clubs if you don’t fit the “stripper mold (slim thick with a fat a$$ or hella thin/fit).” Another thing I will say is that customers love the EXTREMES, as in big booties, big titties, Amazonian height, etc.What I will say is that there’s a place in the strip club for EVERY body type. Click To Tweet
Preparing Your Body
Preparation wise, do the obvious. Eat nutritiously and workout (I’m still working on both of these things lmao). No need for a total body transformation, you just need to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself goes a looooong way in the strip club.
Figure out your hair situation, please. Get your wig together, slay your frontal, hide your tracks, brush your hair, whatever. Just make sure you style it and put some effort in to it. I personally keep it simple, I wear my hair down with a middle part and with natural waves. If I’m feeling up to it, I’ll curl it. Nothing fancy, I just makes sure it looks GOOD.
This also means taking care of your hair!! Take healthy hair vitamins, deep conditioning, detangling, it ALL matters and makes a difference.
When it comes to your nails, I’ve found that your toes are the most important to look after. Have them looking good! A pedicure once/twice a month will do wonders. If that’s not plausible for you, then do it yourself! Exfoliate your feet, use a pumice stone, make sure they’re moisturized, and above all else make sure your toes are always looking cute. A lot of customers have told me that feet are lowkey a deal breaker for them. I’ve gotten tipped for my nice feet and I’ve heard numerous stories of customers with foot fetishes paying BIG. In regard to your hands, just keep your hands clean, soft, and pretty. More likely than not, you’ll find me with natural, unpainted fingernails!
Let’s talk about hair… and not the kind on your head. I keep everything but that pussy hairless 👅. I shave my legs before every shift and generally shave my armpits once/twice a week. It’s dark and not too many guys touch my armpits, but I don’t worry about them too much. A lot of customers like that fact that I go “au natural” down under. Don’t get me wrong, I shave my bikini line before every shift, but I let the rest do its thing 🤷🏽♀️.
I honestly, truly feel like shaving or not shaving is up to your own personal preference. I’ve never heard of a customer reject or freak out over a dancer not being perfectly hairless. Shave if you want to, wax if you want to, do neither if you want to. The safest bet, in my opinion, is to keep anywhere that a customer touches SMOOTH. I can’t tell you the number of compliments and extra tips I get over my “super soft skin.”
This also means MOISTURIZE!!!! Please, please, please moisturize. From the inside out!! Aka stay hydrated and put lotion on immediately after getting out the shower.
Hoe tip: Don’t put moisturizer/lotion on your body before your shift. You don’t want to be slippery and you also don’t want to have any type of smell or substance that could rub off onto customers. Stripper knowledge 101.
Exotic Dance Wear
Get some poppin’ outfits, bitch. One piece or two pieces, whatever is most flattering to you and your body type. I alternate between one and two pieces, depending on my mood and my bloat lol. It’s also important to dress for your club. Whenever I’m at a black/hip hop club I go for mesh and bedazzled outfits. Whenever I’m at a white club I like to go for the lace lingerie look. Whatever you do, accentuate your assets.
For more on stripping at a black/urban club check out THIS post
When it comes to shoes, you generally only need one pair to start out with. Heel height depends on your height and preference. I would say that the most common height is 7-inch platforms. As a baby stripper though, I would definitely start out with 6-inch heels and then upgrade once you’re comfortable dancing and walking in them. There’s really no wrong choice when it comes to dance heels, the general rule is just don’t wear heels that you would wear outside of the club. You need a heel with a platform!! Your feet will thank you.
The number one dance shoe brand in the industry is Pleasers. They durable and come in a thousand different heights, colors, bedazzles, etc. You find the my favorite pair here.
I bet you’re asking where tf you’re supposed to find dance wear??? Most cities have lingerie/exotic wear stores. A lot of dancers get outfits from Victoria’s Secret. Adult stores like Cindie’s and Adam & Eve also sell lingerie outfits and oftentimes shoes.
You have to pay to be paid – A stripper proverb
Unless you’re thrifty and use a matching panty and bra set and have an extra pair of platform shoes laying around, you’re going to have to dish out a lil cash money to buy all these things. Generally speaking you’re looking at $50-$100 if you’re being mindful and if you really want to look the part and show out straight out the gate, then you’re looking at $100-$200 for everything that you need.Generally speaking you’re looking at $50-$100 if you’re being mindful and if you really want to look the part and show out straight out the gate, then you’re looking at $100-$200 for everything that you need. Click To Tweet
Preparing to Dance:
Like I mentioned, I’m a total type A gyal and I LOVE to plan and be prepared. For me, this included practicing my ~exotic dancing~. I did this by watching youtube videos on how to give a lap dance, sexy pole dancing and floorwork, and learning new booty tricks. Those are basically the core components of being a “good dancer.”
I practiced giving lap dances on an imaginary customer to similar music that I knew the club would be playing.
I found my passion and skill for twerking by doing it everywhere and anywhere lol. It’s great to learn how to twerk from basically any position.
TBH, when it comes to pole and floor work, the best and, dare I say, only way you’re going to learn those things is by being on stage at a club. Sure, you can watch videos on youtube, practice at home, and even take pole dancing classes, but the only way you’re going to discover and perfect your stage presence is by being on stage.
Woo-eee do you need to mentally prepared for what you’re about to get yourself into.
Practice makes confidence. Practice your moves, get your muscles used to the memory. Role play, with a real friend or an imaginary friend, giving lap dances, interacting with customers, etc.
Get into the hustler mind set. Making money as a stripper is 60% hustle and 40% looks. Fight me on that. By hustle, I mean knowing how to sell yourself. Turning their fantasy into your profit. No one can tell you how to hustle, it’s truly something that’s learned on the job. BUT you can go in with tips and tricks that will help you discover and advance your hustle.Get into the hustler mind set. Making money as a stripper is 60% hustle and 40% looks. Click To Tweet
Get yourself into a bad bitch mindset. To make it in this industry you really gotta act you’re Trina aka THE BADDEST BITCH. You think I’m playing, but you’ll see. And if you don’t feel like you’ve got it goin on… fake it till you make it, hoe.
Finally, and lowkey most importantly, you need to set your boundaries before you step foot in the club. I can’t tell you what’s the norm at your particular club in your particular city. You just need to think long and hard about what you’re willing to accept and do for money and what you’re not. And guess what… It’s OKAY if you get in the club and change your mind. That’s totally fine. Truly reevaluate your boundaries every couple weeks once you start stripping. It’s imperative to taking care of yourself mentally and physically.
If you are feeling nervous or have anxiety over stripping check out my post on overcoming anxiety before going to work for strippers!
Y’all know I had a breakdown after my first night dancing which is partially why I wanted to make this master post for you guys. So that y’all wouldn’t be as overwhelmed and totally blind sided like I was.
What I really wasn’t prepared for was the emotional aspect of having people touch and view my body like it was a commodity. I love that shit now (because liberation), but that first couple shifts it was really… interesting (emotionally speaking). It really took time for me to acknowledge and work past my initial shame and insecurities. I did a lot of self-reflection and found that those negative feelings were forced onto me by society and not a true reflection of what I really felt.
I can’t tell you how to emotionally prepare for this job. What I can tell you is that you need to.
Money is obviously extremely validating, but nobody talks about the flip side. There are going to be days when you don’t make any a lot of money. What we all need to remember is that these days happen and they are not a reflection of our self-worth.Money is obviously extremely validating, but nobody talks about the flip side. Click To Tweet
Preparing for the Industry
Let me give y’all a quick lil rundown of the industry. Things that I wish I would’ve known beforehand
You have to pay to work.
- Tip out/house fees is the cash that you pay daily to just work at the club. Can generally range from $5-$100+ and often depends on the time that you get there.
- You’re pretty much forced (not technically in most clubs, although in certain clubs I have been forced) to tip out the DJ ($20), managers, money handler, etc. Each club does it differently, but there are certain members of the staff that you’re supposed to slide money to every night.
- SOME clubs take a certain percentage of your earnings.
Extras = doing extra shit for extra money i.e. sucking dick in the champagne room.
“Do you play?” = Do you do extras?
Favoritism is a bitch and will impact your earnings.
- A lot of times, the manager will decide who gets to go to VIP sections when celebrities come in.
Be friendly with the waitresses.
- It’ll come back to you in $$$.
Personality will get you a lot of money. Know how to hold a fucking conversation.
For more on the industry check out The Truth About Stripping
Preparing for Business
Have a business plan. Please be smart with your money.Have a business plan. Please be smart with your money. Click To Tweet
Know what you’re going to do with your money. Have a monthly budget. Have a specific amount of money that you need to make for your bills and necessities, then have a specific percentage of your income that you’re going to save, and then decide how much of the left overs are for you to fuck off.
SAVE! SAVE! SAVE!
Have a specific end date in mind if you’re not planning on making this your career. Time goes by very fast in a place with no windows and it’s very easy to get sucked in to this line of work.
Keep a detailed log of your income. Log how much you paid in tip out, how much you made, when this was, and any work-related expenses such as getting your hair done, your gym membership, make up expenses, mani/pedis, any new outfits/shoes etc. Keep all of this logged for tax purposes (YES you need to pay taxes). I have an excel spreadsheet that I log all of this into after every single shift.
Hoe tip: Keeping track of appearance/body/cosmetic/work related purchases can be used as deductions come tax time which means that you’ll potentially be paying less in taxes.
The Day/Night Of
Treat yo’ self. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself.Treat yo’ self. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Click To Tweet
Take your time getting ready, enjoy yourself and feel good.
Stay hydrated and give yourself the fuel (food) you need.
I found that you can research, read, watch, ask around, do everything you can beforehand, but no matter what nothing replaces experience and there’s just some lessons that only experience can teach.
This post only scratches the surface, so be certain that this is one of many, many posts that will give you advice, tips/tricks, and an inside look at being a sex worker. I’ll be talking more than just stripping, so stay tuned!
If you need ANYTHING at all, have any questions, concerns, additional advice etc. DON’T hesitate to leave a comment below or DM me on social media.